10/20/2007
A Woman's Worth
I dedicate this entry, which I got from the e-mail, to all the great fab women out there who demand for more, knowing that she deserves every bit of what she bids for.
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question......
"What kind of man are you looking for?"
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking.
"Do you really want to know?"
Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."
She began to expound... "As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life."
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.
She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is
sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded."
I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. "
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.
He said, "You're asking a lot."
She replied, "I'm worth a lot."
By the way, this is my nails' new look. =D
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07/27/2007
Why Men Marry Bitches
Women, now is the time to unleash your inner beast and make him come crawling towards your feet.
Needless to say, this is what the book Why Women Marry Bitches -- A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart by Sherry Argov, is all about.
Mind you people, the bitches referred to in this book are not the mean manipulative witches who bring suffering to others; the author defines a real bitch as someone who has a "strong conviction, with her own identity and is secure for who she is... the woman he dreams of marrying..."
The book forewarned everyone that this is "not written to coddle your inner child." True to her words, Argov tackled the "strategies" that will make him commit, whether he likes it or not, in a rather colloquial manner. The book aims to teach women the proper ways of scaring the wits outta him. The subtle methods to make oneself inexpendable and thus make the prince charming propose unconsciously.
Which led me to think, are men really that stupid and women that desperate to get married?
After a few days of engaging myself in what the author calls a no-holds-barred intense tete-a-tete with men who are happily married to bitches, I felt cheated out of my 11 bucks. I find the book of no use in my current state. It doesn't apply to us. Nope. I know what I want and I certainly don't want to trick him into marrying me so that in a few years he will be sadly hanging out in his favorite bar, telling all the dudes who care to listen, MJ is a psycho bitch.
The sound of it is disgusting already. Blasphemous.
Seriously, there are principles that Argov laid out which, she calls a brilliant maneuvering of a man's ego. "If he doesn't call you in a few days, fails to give you what you want, you should do the same thing. Monkey see, monkey do."
I definitely don't agree with that. What if something happend to your man and no one thought of telling you knowing that you two are together most of the time. You just give up on him then?
The author assures that if he's into you, he will start to wonder where you are, what have you been doing when he's not around. Bla. Bla. Bla. Yeah. What if he accidentally fell off a cliff or bumped his head and acquired amnesia? What then?
With all the dignified, feminine and winsome blueprint that the author laid out... she forgot one vital issue...
At the end of the day, it's not the cold-calculating Ms. Galaxy or the smart independent Ms. Librarian who gets to live happily ever after... it's the woman who ordered Karate Kid in Starbucks because she forgot her boss's favorite coffee mix and hoped that the barista will get what she's trying to say; the one who laughed her brains out/ cried her lungs out in public, not caring what others may think of her; the one who calls him in the middle of the night, simply to ask him if he's having sweet dreams; the one who loves and gives without reservations...
She is the one who gets to tie the knot with the man who perceived all her imperfections and flaws as endearing assets. She is the one who stays married with him for as long as she's living... And she's no bitch.
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06/11/2007
Those Things that Hurt...
"Those things that hurt, instruct." Words of wisdom by the great Benjamin Franklin.
When we are deeply hurt, we tend to think it's the end of the world. When we go through the same vicious cycle of falling in love and getting hurt in the process, we, as humans, would naturally assume that it's our fate -- to be brokenhearted all the time. Worst, we feel cursed. Not.
We should not bury ourselves in misery, but instead, we should learn to look back and stare straight in the eyes of pain with a smile and learn from it; move on, strive, and make the future brighter with genuine enthusiasm.
Instead of sulking in a corner, curled up in a fetal position, we should take the opportunity of being hurt to construct better options in life, to live more, so to speak.
Take inspiration from the mundane things we normally ignore. Derive strength from the love of our families and friends, the ones who are always there, no matter what. Have more faith in God and allow Him to guide you.
We should not forget the old adage: "nothing lasts forever"; whatever misery we are going through right now, shall pass. Everything happens for a reason. And it's always for our own good. The anguish is God's another way of telling us that He's preparing us for a better deal, for a finer life.
If you choose to languish, it's your call... but there's more to life than a lost love. For all you know, before the year is over, you'll be singing Gloria's immortal song:
"I'm not that chained up little person
still in love with you
and so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me..."
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04/20/2007
Things You Don't Know About Women
I got these from Esquire.com. They asked some female celebrities to dish out what they think the top ten "Things You Don't Know About Women".
I post here some of my favorites and arranged them according to personal preference. Enjoy.
1. Sometimes we think we really understand men. Then we regain consciousness.
2. We think it's okay if you get fat and go bald. Please do us the same courtesy.
3. You know that thing about men being hunters? We don't buy that as an excuse to screw around.
4. You may consider a root canal less painful, but this much is true, no matter the woman: We sincerely want to talk about how you feel.
5. Size over stamina.
6. Kissing is something that you need to stay engaged in, even if all the blood is rushing out of your head and into other parts of your body.
7. We like younger men for the same reasons you like younger women: stamina and skin.
8. There are two spots on women that need to be touched more: the back of the neck and the lower back. Fireworks.
9. Women remember everything . Don't believe me? Ask your girlfriend where you met. She won't tell you it was at a party. She'll say it was a Thursday, she had just come from dinner, where she ate a veggie burger, and she was wearing her friend Cathy's pink top, which was big on her because Cathy is a big girl. You were wearing a blue button-down, drinking a Jack and Coke with two straws, and talking to Bill, that mutual friend. She waved and you gave her the "what's up" nod. This still infuriates her. ("How could you give me the nod?")
10. We'll gladly agree to stop complaining about our "time of the month" if men will kindly take over the little chores of childbearing, morning sickness, and postpartum emotional swings. Deal?
11. We know what you're doing when you put your hand in your pocket.
12. An eyelash curler, while mean and ferocious looking, is not a weapon.
13. No matter how much your woman loves you, there are going to be three to seven days each month when she wants you dead. (She may even quietly fantasize about turning her eyelash curler against you.) You have two options: Tie yourself to a tree and wait out the storm, or stock up at Tiffany's, toss a blue box or two into the wind, and hope for the best. We recommend the latter. (The key chain doesn't count.)
14. Remember in old movies when women used to swoon and "take to the bed" for days at a time? That never happens. We're stronger than that. That being said, if we ever decide to "take to the bed" for days at a time, there's not a thing you can do about it.
15. We know high heels are sexy, but we'll take our comfy black Uggs any day of the week.
16. When we start getting undressed in front of you with the lights on, it means we've lost interest.
17. We do like to have sex, just not at midnight when we have to get up at the crack of dawn to feed two kids, three dogs, and a pair of fat goldfish.
18. Women really do want to be on time. It's just that everything starts so darned early.
19. Crying and saying you're sorry for calling us Halle Berry during sex still doesn't make it okay.
20. We can't have sex without expecting a call from you the next day.
21. We never notice the Brad Pitt look-alike sitting alone at table 2 wearing the black shirt and sporting the rugged two-day stubble. He didn't even cross our minds.
22. Pull your pants down. You're not 85, you're not an accountant, and we don't need to see the shape of your balls.
23. If it's been five years since you bothered to call and I'm taking island vacations with George Clooney, good luck getting me back.
24. Under the right circumstances, like after you surprise us with a foot massage, we are willing to consider your newfound beer belly a sexy addition.
25. Breasts are not a speed bump to the promised land.
26. Yes, we want you to be more verbal. No, burping doesn't count.
27. Speaking of which, though it might make for a cool carnival sideshow, our entire face will not fit inside your mouth, and thus this makes for lousy kissing.
28. If we're crying and you're holding us and get a hard-on, we automatically deduct points.
29. And getting a boner while we're sleeping next to you is not an excuse to wake us up. This is not what they mean by serendipity.
30. Superskinny women really irritate us. We hate when they say, "Sometimes I just forget to eat." Now, I've forgotten my anniversary and where I parked my car. But I've never forgotten to eat.
31. We pay closer attention to your hands than you think. It's bad enough if you don't have manly hands, but if your nails are longer than ours, forget it.
32. You don't get a vote in the preferred shape of our pubic hair. Until you've had hot wax poured all over your crotch, you're merely a passenger on that flight.
33. Looks don't matter. That much.
34. Men are free to think they're the boss, as long as they know we're the chairman of the board.
35. We need you. Because a vibrating piece of plastic can't kiss.
36. Don't try to figure us out. We don't even understand ourselves. Just think of us as a complex carbohydrate that's good for you.
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07/23/2005
Men and Gross Jokes (Final Of A Series)
Finally, the last of the Men series. This piece took me sometime to finish as I wanted this to be an all-embracing unbiased composition.
Having grown up in a brood of six where four are boys, I was never spared of those gross jokes. My brothers could spin yards and yards of really nasty jokes. When we were teenagers, whenever their friends came over to the house, I would intently listen to their wanton repartees. And was I shock to hear my dear little brothers telling lewd stuff. I then would casually report to my mom about it and she would tell me to mind my own business. As the years go by, I started hanging out with guys and found out that the my brothers were not the worst creatures on earth. And mom is right, it's a boy thing.
7. Why Do Men Love Gross Jokes?
According to the book, the main purpose of humor for men is threefold: first, to gain status with other men by having good repertoire; second, to allow him to deal with the tragic events or consequences; and third, to acknowledge the truth about a topical issue. This is why almost all jokes have a punchline, which is usually a disastrous ending.
Brain scans show that men laugh more at things that stimulate the right brain than the left, but for women, it's the oppposite. In America, Rochester University claims to have found where the male sense of humor comes from - its located in the right frontal lobe of the brain above the eye. Men love humor or any joke that has a logical, step-by-step approach with a conclusion that is hard to predict. Here are some relatively tame jokes that stimulate male brains.
What's the difference betweem a tart and a bitch?
A tart will sleep with anyone.
A bitch will sleep with anyone except you.
What's the difference between a woman with PMS and a terrorist?
You can negotiate with a terrorist.
Why do men give their penis a name?
Because they don't want a complete stranger making their major decisions.
Male brains have an amazing capacity for remembering and storing jokes. Some men can tell jokes they heard in fourth grade but do not know the names of their children's best friends. Male think it is hilarious to moon (give a "brown eye") from a moving car to an unsuspecting group of elderly ladies, especially nuns, put superglue or cling rap on a toilet seat, hold a farting a competition or chain a drunken, naked groom-to-be to a lamppost. To most women, none of these things is remotely funny. As my girl friends Yoli and Mitch wrote back when I posted this question in our e-mail group: "...because when they say gross jokes without being grossed out makes them manly...because MEN are basically THAT- GROSS!" These two ladies are probably married to guys who have great sense of humour. I don't know really as I have never met their hubbies in person.
Jokes are so important as a communication medium to men that whenever there is a global tragedy, the world's email networks and faxes are literally swamped with men sending tragedy-related jokes. Whether it's the death of Princess Diana, September 11 or the hunt for Osama Bin Laden, the male brain instantly swings into action.
Osama Bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters, 13 wives, 28 children and is worth over $300 million. But he hates Americans because of their excessive lifestyles.
Herein lies the difference between men and women in handling serious emotional issues. Women, deal with calamity or tragedy by openly expressing their emotions to others, but men withhold their emotions. Men use joke-telling as their way of "talking" about the event without showing any strong emotions which could be seen as weakness.
In laymen's terms, jokes and laughters are men's way of dealing with really sensitive issues. As crying is to women, laughter is to men.
The book pointed out that laughter and crying are closely linked from a psychological and physiological standpoint. Think of the last time someone told you a joke that made you buckle up with uncontrollable laughter. How did you feel afteward? That tingling sensation came from your brain releasing endorphins into your bloodstream, giving you a natural "high". Endorphin is the same chemical the brain releases when we cry.
Solution
The book simply offered this solution - don't get offended, which was basically the very essence of what a blogreader (Deity's Nemesis) once wrote: "Get over it! Stop proclaiming to be so perfect, and laugh when you hear something funny."
Men love gross jokes. It's a given fact. We can not do anything about it. The jokes are not written or meant to degrade women, or any other human specie at that. Jokes were made basically to entertain, to alleviate boredom or loneliness, to cope with tragedies.
Eric, a very dear friend and a member of that email group, poignantly put it this way: "Just to set the record straight, its not only us men who love gross jokes...women also love gross jokes...its the reaction that varies...we just take it plainly as gross without being grossed out while women will shrill their guts out so that they can be cute. We just take it matter-of-factly...we laugh at it because it's a joke, period...."
So girls, the next time you hear a gross joke: laugh! It's good for the facial muscles anyway, besides, what better way to win a man's heart but to laugh at his jokes? No matter how pathetically insipid the jokes can be at times.
What's the difference between a penis and a prick?
A penis is fun, sexy and satisfying...A prick is the guy who owns it.
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Men and Women Series Source: Why Men Don't Have A Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes
Gratia: My heartfelt thanks to all my friends in maspoziesadu@yahoogroups.com, my online friends - Raven, Francis, Randy, Mike, Jim, Lilly, Wendy and Stan, who served as my inspiration in writing the Men and Women series, and to all the men I have loved before. (Were they men? Uh-uh...). My sincerest benediction likewise goes to my blogreaders, especially to those who dared to print their feedbacks and those who chose to send me a private message instead.
Here's to world peace!
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07/19/2005
Men and Disgusting Habits (VI of a Series)
Oh God. This is going to be so difficult.
I thought hard before hitting the keyboard. Should I continue this series? Should I tackle this topic? Am I not going to offend the entire male species? I mean, hello, by all means, I can skip this one, but that would make me a cow. I really hate talking about disgusting habits. Yes, all of us have some disgusting habits - men and women alike, it's just that guys are kinda more forward with their little "habits".
I count myself lucky for having ex-boyfriends who got some "manners" instilled in their brains. At least, I never get to see really how beastly men can be or so I heard. Then again, I was not spared totally with some of those really abominable habits. I got my loads of stories to tell, but honestly, it was totally okay with me, to a certain point, that is.
Girls, you wanna know this?
6. Why Do Men Have Such Disgusting Personal Habits?
At the top of the list of men's habits women won't tolerate are: nose-picking, burping, body odor, wearing ancient underwear, and crotch scratching. But number one on the list is farting.
Farting is universally unacceptable by women even though it is a sign of healthy body and diet. For males, the appreciation of farting begins at about age ten, when a boy's level of achievement is related to his ability to drop a range of farts under a variety of circumstances such as imitating voices or using a cigarette lighter to send a blue flame or fire shooting across the room. These acts are seen as a greater achievement than the discovery of the cure to polio. Burping routines rate as a close second.
Oh yes! I remember dearly how when some years ago, my son made me his unwilling listener to a series of farts. He said it was cool and all his classmates thought he's really neat! I think I threw some bags on him and told him never to do it again! I think I almost fainted then! What a fucking smell! I still can remember how my son's fart smells! Ewwwwww!!!
Flatulence Facts
While 96.3% of men admit to farting, only 2.1% of women will ever acknowledge they fart. You have to kill me first! Men let loose an average of 1.5 -2.5 liets of gas a day delivering an average of 12 farts a day which is enough to fill a small balloon. Women fart an average of seven times a day and emit 1-1.5 liters of gas. The main cause of excessive farting is talking too much and talking while eating. Wind becomes trapped in the system and although much of it is belched out, the rest passes through into the small intestines where it mixes with other gases and prepares to burst out on an unsuspecting world.
In 1956, Bernard Clemmens of London manged to sustain a fart for an officially recorded time of 2 minutes 42 seconds. I wonder if his audience are still alive.
Offending Foods
Okay, guys, you should take note of this. This is very helpful especially if you are dating that special girl for the first few weeks. You don't want her running away coz of that rather awkward propensity, right? Okay, before you react, come on, just bear with this one!!! Of course, you can fart whenever you want, later, when you guys get comfy with each other.
The biggest fart-producing foods include cauliflower, onions, garlic, cabbage, broccoli, bran, beans, beer, cask white wine, and fruit and vegetables generally. As a result, vegetarians fart much more but smell a lot less.
Products that reduce the amount of gas produced include charcoal tablets, "de-gas" preparations and both peppermint and ginger products. There is also a charcoal-based cushion available. You sit on it and it guarantees a 90% reduction of fart smell. This tool is cool if you're driving long distance with your girlfriend with the AC on. At least, you don't have to pretend as if nothing happened in case you weren't able to hold the fart. Heheheh!!!
Cattle and sheep fart around 35% of the methane gas in the world's atmosphere causing increased global warming and enlarging the hole in the ozone layer. Terrorism is not the world's biggest threat- it's farting cows! Oh cripes! Kill all the cows and sheeps now!
Solution
An obvious remedy is to serve up healthy meals with fewer of the fart-producing foods, and give a man a cup of peppermint tea aftewards, rather than coffee. Food-combining diets are also shown to help too, where meals never involve both carbohydrates and protein in the same sitting.
Also, encourage a man not to drink water during the meal. Beforehand is fine, but to drink while eating dilutes the digestive juices so it makes him more likely to fart aferwards. Lead by example. Chew food very well, eat slowly, and don't watch TV at the same time.
Often, the most useful persuasive device with any man is the promise of sex if he behaves well. A woman can make it clear how much she's turned off sex by farting in the bedroom. If he works at his diet to make sure he farts less, he may, in return, enjoy a far more active sex life. Those of you who are wondering why the missus is suddenly having headache when you want to have sex, ask yourself: Did I fart? Hahahahah!!!
Why do men fart more than women? Women don't stop talking long enough to build up pressure.
Fire in the hall! Someone just farted! Oh bloody!
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06/23/2005
Why Do Women Always Want to Talk About Problems? (II of a Series)
This is basically the reason why I am seeing a shrink. I don't have a man, a boyfriend that I can pour out my angsts on. Women want to talk about problems, all the time! And that my friend, is women's nature that should be known and understood.
Women live an average of seven years longer than men, mainly because of a better ability to cope with stress. When a man wants to forget about a stressful day, he can do so by thinking or doing something else. His single-tracking brain allows him to concentrate on the news, television, watering the garden, surfing the Internet or constructing a model ship, to the exclusion of his problems. By concentrating on one othing at a time other than his problem, he can forget about it. A man under stress who doesn't preoccupy himself with another activity will stop talking and sit alone on his rock trying to find a solution to his problem. The danger is that his stress is being internalized and may result in stress condions such as diarrhea, constipation, stomach ulcers or a heart attack - hopefully not all at the same time.
Now, I understand why my dad has diarrhea all the time, and why he keeps cleaning his bike when it's already sparkling clean.
Women deal with stress by talking about their problems over and over, backward and forward and from every angle, without reaching any conclusions. Talking about their problems is how they relieve their stress. If a man talked like this other men would assume he was incapable and was ssking for solutions....which they would promptly offer.
To men, it's a mystery why women like to talk through an argument, especially late at night. The female brain is, however, a communications computer that is process-based. Women like to talk through every aspect of their actions and their feelings. Men are more likely to recoil at such a prospect. Men prefer to have arguments, and then leave it alone, or to have sex instead of arguing. Men like to go off to their rock, and think about something else.
Women want to make peace and smooth out any disagreements. The believe talking can make everyone feel better. Men believe talking can usually make things far worse.
Now, are you wondering why there is WAR in the middle east? It's because these so-called great leaders, are men, who refuses to sit down and talk!!!
Solution
When a woman is talking through a problem and may not apear to make sense, remember that she needs to go through the process of talking to feel better. Listen with compassion (and you will be rewarded with great sex afterwards! LOL) and tell her you're always there to listen when she needs you. This is much easier than trying to fix problems that don't exist and it scores you lots of points.
If you can't respond immediately, gently ask a woman if she could leave the subject and pick it up another day when the heat has subsided from an argument. Say "Sorry, darling but I can't get my head around this problem at the moment. Could we talk about it tomorrow/at the weekend/next week, when I have had the chance to think it through?" This approach is far more like to work than saying nothing and hoping that the woman will simply run out of things to say. She won't.
There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works. - Rodney Dangerfield
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06/22/2005
Why Do Women Talk So Much (Continuation of I)
We continue our little talk about women's psyche.
Here's the solution that the book offers for men who can't stand women talking so much.
Solution for Men:
Understand that the main purpose of a woman's talk is to talk. Her goal is to feel better by talking about her day and to bond with you - no solutions are required. All you need to do is listen and encourage her. The content of a man's talk is not important, it's his participation that counts.
So next time you hear your girl blabber over something, be a little nice (you're always nice anyway when you want to have sex, just bear with her), and pretend, if you must, that you are interested in what she's saying, although half of your brain is meaning to smother her with a pillow. You don't have to say much, a mere "that's too bad honey" or "am sorry to hear that" or "really, isn't that great" are the simple things you can retort.
Solution for Women
Of course, there's also a counterclaim for women to avoid chaos in the households or relationships. This article, is after all, not written solely for men. It's not because I explained the nature of women's unnecessary ramblings, it would mean that it's now okay to bombard men with banters and assume that they will understand you. Any relationship will only work out fine if the willing participants will do their parts responsibly. It takes two to tango, remember?
Set a time with a man when you want to talk and tell him you just want him to listen without offering solutions. Don't give a man a silent treatment and then feel upset because he has not noticed you're not speaking to him. He enjoys this quiet time because he can relax. Do you really think he would take you literally if you threaten him with "I will never talk to you again!" Duhhh!!! He will be grinning from ass to ass if you say that, because it means peace and quiet, and that my friend, is another bonus for men. If you have an issue with him be direct about it. No guessing game, be straight to the point.
The next time you want to get laid, don't put extra effort in dressing up sexy or play cute and sweety with all those homecook meal and stuff. Just tell him upfront: "I want to have sex tonight and you better give me multiple orgasms." Period.
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06/21/2005
Why Do Women...? (First of a Series)
Okay, for the past few weeks, eversince this Eminem song inspired namesake persona started posting about his "confusing affair with a Korean lady love" I got tons of PMS asking me advices on women, love, blah, blah, blah...
The most common question is, "Why does my girlfriend talk a lot?", among other things. I was kinda astounded with the flood of mails, which made me think for a while. What if I actually charge these people for all the advices that they seek? I better quit teaching and just concentrate on these poor dudes? Heck, but that would mean absorbing anguish of the entire men's populace. Okay, am kinda exaggerating here.
Categorically, I am not going to discuss the problem of my letter senders vis-a-vis. However, I'm trying to be efficient with this new found vocation so I took the liberty of researching on some "intriguing" women attributes that drive men crazy.
Ergo, as a first installment to a series of blogs devoted entirely to understanding the women's psyche, I am going to discuss first the most common questions men ask about women. These questions are generally what bogs the simplistic mind of these so-called superior mammalia.
1. Why do women talk so much?
2. Why do women want to talk about problems?
3. Why do women exaggerate?
4. Why do women never seem to get to the point?
5. Why do women want to know all the little details?
1. Why do women talk so much?
According to the book "Why Men Don't Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes", the logic lies behind the early lives of men and women. Women evolved in group situation with other women and children all staying close to the cave. The ability to bond and to build close relationships was paramount to each woman's survival. Men evolved silently sitting on a hill, searching for a moving target. When women engaged in any activity together, they would constantly chatter as a means of bonding. When males were hunting or fishing, no one talked for fear of startling the prey. When modern man goes fishing or hunting, he still doesn't say much. When modern women go gathering (shopping) they still constantly chatter. Women don't need a reason to talk and don't need an end goal. They talk to make a connection with ech other.
So now you know why men are usually quiet and women are usually noisy?
Here's more.
According to scientific studies, and as quoted by the writers of "Why Men...", a female brain can effortlessly output 6,000 to 8,000 spoken words a day. Contrast this with a man's maximum output of 2,000 to 4,000 a day and you can see why women's capacity for talk causes so many problems for couples. A working man exhausts his word output by mid-afternoon then arrives home to a woman who may still have 4,000-5,000 words to go!
Need I say more?
Two women can spend all day together and then easily talk for another hour on the telephone. A man's response to this is, "Why didn't you tell her all that when you saw her?"
Men's brain are configured for problem solving and to continually come up with solutions. Men use speech and language to communicate facts and data. This creates serious problem when communicating with women because women's "talk" is completely different. Female talk is a form of reward and to bond with another person. Put simply, if she likes or loves you, if she is agreeable to what yo are saying or wants you to feel accepted and significant, she will talk to you; if she doesn't like you, she won't talk.
Furthermore, men should note that when she's sharing personal confidences with you she's not complaining-it means she trusts you. When she blabbers about something, she doesn't want you to come up with a solution. She just need to ramble and all you have to do is listen. Listen! Hear that? Just shut up and listen!
Tomorrow, am going to continue this article.
In the meantime, I would like to inform everyone that my hourly charge is...
I will send it by e-mail. I don't want the IRS to run after my ass.
Source:
"Why Men Don't Have a Clue and Why Women Always Need More Shoes" by Barbara and Allan Pease
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